Our readings today remind us that ideally that marriage in our tradition is a permanent union of equals. But in reality we have to deal firstly and compassionately with human failure and societal change. Our increased understanding of human psychology and interpersonal relationships tells us that some marriages perhaps never were and some just came to their natural end. And the same sex marriage debate has forced us to face the changing reality of the world in which we minister and give witness. We have moved beyond the language of bigamy and excommunication to the language of love and inclusion.